Comments on: dear aunty blue http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/ Sat, 30 Aug 2008 00:05:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Robin http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-16349 Robin Tue, 18 Dec 2007 21:56:52 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-16349 Well, you are a true friend Soupy. I would have gone for the short, sharp, blunt option. 1. Dump him. 2. Sell everything 3. Move house 4. Start a new, fresh life. Well, you are a true friend Soupy. I would have gone for the short, sharp, blunt option.

1. Dump him.
2. Sell everything
3. Move house
4. Start a new, fresh life.

]]> By: blue soup http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10715 blue soup Tue, 31 Jul 2007 08:56:05 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10715 Well, I took ages replying to it, at least half an hour. It turned out to be a pretty long email in the end, but I basically said what I said above, except with a little more care over delivery. (Froggy - she doesn't know about all the relationship traumas I have suffered as we started drifting apart before Longterm Ex did that spectacular screw up thing.) Well, I took ages replying to it, at least half an hour. It turned out to be a pretty long email in the end, but I basically said what I said above, except with a little more care over delivery.

(Froggy - she doesn’t know about all the relationship traumas I have suffered as we started drifting apart before Longterm Ex did that spectacular screw up thing.)

]]> By: Venting http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10695 Venting Mon, 30 Jul 2007 18:25:39 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10695 I dunno. That's a hard one. It would be a shame to throw away a 7-year relationship because of one mistake. Was it just once? I could forgive if it was a drunken night and it happened just once. More than once, or when it involves any kind of planning or deception, I wouldn't forgive. Meh. Hard one. I dunno. That’s a hard one. It would be a shame to throw away a 7-year relationship because of one mistake. Was it just once? I could forgive if it was a drunken night and it happened just once. More than once, or when it involves any kind of planning or deception, I wouldn’t forgive.

Meh. Hard one.

]]> By: Sarah http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10683 Sarah Mon, 30 Jul 2007 14:06:59 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10683 I have no advice to give. But I like how you look at it from both sides. It'll keep you a supportive friend no matter what she chooses. I have no advice to give. But I like how you look at it from both sides. It’ll keep you a supportive friend no matter what she chooses.

]]> By: Hamish http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10679 Hamish Mon, 30 Jul 2007 12:53:00 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10679 :)))) :))))

]]> By: hoverfrog http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10678 hoverfrog Mon, 30 Jul 2007 12:42:53 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10678 I hope you aren't talking about drawers and pokers? ;) I hope you aren’t talking about drawers and pokers? ;)

]]> By: Hamish http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10677 Hamish Mon, 30 Jul 2007 12:27:42 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10677 Bloody hell Froggy. Normally i have to pay for that............ Bloody hell Froggy. Normally i have to pay for that…………

]]> By: hoverfrog http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10676 hoverfrog Mon, 30 Jul 2007 09:27:38 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10676 I'd go for the former. Some things just can't be fixed and trying only makes it worse. No, scrub that. Tell her the truth. Give her all the options as you see them with pros and cons. In the end it's her decisions (their decision) and no-one else should make up her mind except her. And yet it strikes me somehow that she came to you for an answer. Is she aware of your troubles with love and fidelity? If so is she looking for affirmation of her own thoughts to give her the courage to end it or to rebel against any advice and seek to resume the former relationship? If it were me then I'd probably forgive but if it were The Hildy then she'd lock my bollocks in a drawer and stab me with hot pokers. I’d go for the former. Some things just can’t be fixed and trying only makes it worse.

No, scrub that.

Tell her the truth. Give her all the options as you see them with pros and cons. In the end it’s her decisions (their decision) and no-one else should make up her mind except her.

And yet it strikes me somehow that she came to you for an answer. Is she aware of your troubles with love and fidelity? If so is she looking for affirmation of her own thoughts to give her the courage to end it or to rebel against any advice and seek to resume the former relationship?

If it were me then I’d probably forgive but if it were The Hildy then she’d lock my bollocks in a drawer and stab me with hot pokers.

]]> By: blue soup http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10672 blue soup Mon, 30 Jul 2007 09:13:58 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10672 I don't think "completely untrustworthy" is right. He has betrayed her terribly and some people cannot forgive cheating, but it is not like Kev at all. You[re right that the question is "how many times is that going to happen again?" but I think the reason she is even asking, rather than just walking away, is because it is such a shock. I don’t think “completely untrustworthy” is right. He has betrayed her terribly and some people cannot forgive cheating, but it is not like Kev at all. You[re right that the question is “how many times is that going to happen again?” but I think the reason she is even asking, rather than just walking away, is because it is such a shock.

]]> By: CoatMan http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10660 CoatMan Sun, 29 Jul 2007 22:22:40 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10660 Goodness. Your friends do make you work hard. The poor dear, though - she must be desperate for ideas. The real problem is that this fellow seems to be a completely untrustworthy character: if he turns to infidelity and isolation when the chips are down, how many times is that going to happen again? Goodness. Your friends do make you work hard. The poor dear, though - she must be desperate for ideas. The real problem is that this fellow seems to be a completely untrustworthy character: if he turns to infidelity and isolation when the chips are down, how many times is that going to happen again?

]]> By: pinkjellybaby http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10651 pinkjellybaby Sun, 29 Jul 2007 18:27:02 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10651 geez, sounds like she's had a pretty rough time of it as well as him, she didn't go running off to another man though..... ah... well if she can move forwards from it then all power to her, some people do strange things when they are having a hard time. depends how strong she is, don't think i could do it geez, sounds like she’s had a pretty rough time of it as well as him, she didn’t go running off to another man though…..

ah… well if she can move forwards from it then all power to her, some people do strange things when they are having a hard time. depends how strong she is, don’t think i could do it

]]> By: Hamish http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10648 Hamish Sun, 29 Jul 2007 16:19:13 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10648 When I've been the guilty party, I've always managed to squirm my way back in. If any girlfriend of mine ever cheated, I'd dump her instantly. Two faced or what ? Men eh ? When I’ve been the guilty party, I’ve always managed to squirm my way back in.

If any girlfriend of mine ever cheated, I’d dump her instantly. Two faced or what ?

Men eh ?

]]> By: LondonGirl http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10646 LondonGirl Sun, 29 Jul 2007 13:49:05 +0000 http://bluesoup.wordpress.com/2007/07/29/dear-aunty-blue/#comment-10646 Spot on, soupy. Even if she can forgive (which makes her a bigger person than me, I fear), she'll never forget. For you can't forget a betrayal like that. And how can you possibly move on? But if he's worth it, maybe it's worth a try. Maybe. Spot on, soupy. Even if she can forgive (which makes her a bigger person than me, I fear), she’ll never forget. For you can’t forget a betrayal like that. And how can you possibly move on? But if he’s worth it, maybe it’s worth a try. Maybe.

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