Comments on: when bad things happen to good people

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 12:28:21 +0000

I might be asking the same as Boy above but did you actually say “If it can be a casual flirtation ……….etc” to him.

I had same thing going but I thought it was “deep-rooted love affairs” but to her it was “casual flirtation” I think it would have gone better/ended easier if we had both been on the same page.

By: Perpetual

Perpetual — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:59:41 +0000

It does seem like you’ve made your mind up, which is fine, and hopefully The Mechanic isn’t too caught up in the ‘city girl’ thing.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 15:28:08 +0000

Well, it sounds like you’ve made your mind up about The Mechanic. Just be gentle when you break it to him. City girls can be pretty tough

By: blue soup

blue soup — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:32:58 +0000

Boy - yes. I was clear. I explained what I outlined above - neither of us is going to move and it’s not what I am looking for at the moment but I do enjoy his company.

Dom - I am confused now. I said the other day that I would bother with contact but he’s not got a chance with me any more…

By: Dom

Dom — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:31:24 +0000

Oh, I thougt you’d just messed up and contacted him, didn’t realise he’d been moved out of his camp

By: The Boy Who Likes To...

The Boy Who Likes To... — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:30:06 +0000

Have you tried telling The Mechanic this?
Straight up and without beating around the bush and using things like “you never know who you might meet around the corner/don’t write someone off down there just because of me”
Why not just tell him “Mr Mechanic, this is all very nice, but right now is not a good time for me/we want different things.”

By: romi41

romi41 — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:24:45 +0000

You seem to have a lot of clarity on the issue, which is rarely the case in these early stages, when it’s so easy to get lost in the clouds; I’d tell you to keep your head on straight, but you’re already doing it; good luck!

By: blue soup

blue soup — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:20:53 +0000

Dom - er, the post before this one…????

PJB - He is nice, and I am trying to make it clear to him without hurting him.

By: pinkjellybaby

pinkjellybaby — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:12:24 +0000

If i never saw the words ‘Fire Man’ again on this blog, it couldn’t come to soon!!

As for The Mechanic, he sounds nice, so be nice to him, even if you do call it off, be nice about it……becasue it sounds like that’s what you should do and he sounds like one of those people who’d say ‘oh, casual is fine by me’ but really mean ‘I’ll say casual is ok in the hope that you fall for me’

By: Dom

Dom — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:06:30 +0000

I’m confused. Wasn’t FM already in the ‘Fuck Him’ camp? Or had I missed the bit where he’s been taken out?

I know what you mean about not needing distractions. Sometimes you just need space to get yourself back together.